Back From Betrayal

Couples Therapy Works: From years-long affairs to smaller breaks in trust, Karen and Figs explain how they are able to bring couples back from the brink after betrayal.

February 16, 2023
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Back From Betrayal

Couples Therapy Works: From years-long affairs to smaller breaks in trust, Karen and Figs explain how they are able to bring couples back from the brink after betrayal.

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The balancing act of couples therapy takes center stage in "Back From Betrayal" as Figs and Karen break down the process of bringing couples who are grappling with a betrayal to repairing and strengthening their relationship.

As compassionate witnesses, Empathi couples therapists guide couples toward "all needs met" moments, which means exploring their vulnerable perspectives in a way so that each member feels understood and is able to empathetically hear what the other partner is sharing.

With a betrayal such as an affair, the "betrayer" often wants to "get back to good" as soon as possible. In this case, Figs and Karen emphasize experiencing and exploring the negative feelings resulting from the betrayal which the "betrayer" is trying to avoid.

As couples therapists, they will explore deeply the many different kinds of betrayal that the "betrayed" has felt for their benefit, but also so that the "betrayer" can recognize it and emulate that empathetic support.

Then, there is space to explore the "betrayer"'s pain in the present moment and what they were seeking through the affair or other betrayal.

Couples Therapy Works is a new series from the Come Here To Me team delving into the complex work of couples therapy from the ground up. Each episode will feature one or more of Empathi’s own counselors as they examine the truths and challenges of relationship repair.

To submit a question for Figs and Karen to answer, email figs@empathi.com or leave a comment on YouTube, Instagram, or Apple Podcasts.

If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit empathi.com for counseling, quizzes, and courses.

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FEATURED EPISODES

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Feedback Failures

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Should You Diagnose Your Partner?

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Healing the Present in Please Like Me

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The Truth About Codependent Relationships

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How to Fix a Toxic Relationship

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Attachment in HBO's Succession

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Triggering or Toxic?

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Seeing The Negative Cycle

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Behind the Therapists

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Why He Withdraws

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Impossible Moments

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Back From Betrayal

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Breakup Empathy

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Pursuer Problems

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Married to a Workaholic

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Don't try this at home

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Into The System

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Unsupervised

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Attachment, A to Z

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Sexy Times

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Failure To Reach

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Sharks in the Water

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Parenting

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Reflections

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Both Sides Now

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Safe With You

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Do You See Me?

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Colluding

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The Process

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Reeling

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Hurry Up and Wait

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Cycles

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Too Much, Not Enough

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